Awww.. Thank you!
What you can actually do about the sexism I’ve had to deal with is stand up for other women when you see it happening to them. One of the saddest things I see day to day is one person saying sexual harassment isn’t alright, and then fifteen other people piling on them saying they’re just a bitch and can’t take a joke.
I promise you it’s one of the most heartening experiences to have another person type out “hey, that’s not cool” before I do, or back me up when I say it. Seeing people fight sexism in my comments is also pretty freaking rad.
And just overall.. thank you for being a cool person.
I do want to say things are changing for the better. Slowly, and painfully, but they’re changing. When I got into raiding about five or six years ago it was impossible for me to join a Vent channel without comments about my gender, and an absolute torrent of private messages asking if I had a boyfriend, how old I am, do I want to go questing together later, will I join their guild, etc. I also had nobody to go to when I wanted it to stop.
Now sometimes when I join vent channels, or my gender comes out over chat, nobody even says anything about it. It’s usually a 50/50 shot, but when someone DOES say something, it’s a few people, not half of the raid. It’s also easier to find a guild being led by people who will support an anti-sexism policy. Even if it’s not 100% sexism free, more and more people (men and women alike) are supporting creating a safe, friendly place for everyone to play.
So yes, being on the front lines can suck a whole lot. Sometimes so hard I walk away from the internet for a while (not “IM QUITTING!!!!!” but “damn, I need to go get coffee and watch some Netflix”). But every time I go outside and I see a little girl carrying around a bright pink 3DS, I pick myself the hell back up, and go make more content. For the little girls I’ve never met that have the chance of growing up and being welcomed into the culture they love. For every little girl who just wants to share her love of video games. Someone has to go in front of her and show people it’s alright, show them we won’t stand for being objectified, and it might as well be me. If I can spare any other woman or girl at least some of the harassment and abuse I’ve endured, everything I do is worth it.
Just so you know, I’m shipping you and that other anon now.
You hang out and have long, deep conversations about MSN. It’s beautiful.
Ahhhh I genuinely don’t know anyone who actually uses an MSN account anymore. D: I have an old hotmail address I use when I think something’s going to spam me but I haven’t used it for chatting or real email anything else in probably five or so six years.
I know Microsoft is trying to push Skype on EVERYONE AT ALL TIMES now, though. I heard it’s going to be in the new XBox system. D: Because what I’ve always wanted is people calling me and watching me in real time scratch my armpits while I play Halo (more challenging than it seems).
I’ll admit I’m a 151 hipster. I haven’t been able to really get “into” any of the games since Red/Blue. For me personally I feel like this boils down to not enjoying any of the starting Pokemon since then. Which is why I’m REALLY excited about the upcoming Pokemon games. The fire Pokemon that looks like Deeps is ADORABLE. In my very first Pokemon game (Red) I picked Charmander, got his fiery little ass all the way to level 100, and felt damn proud. I’m hoping to capture that again later this year.
Anyway this beer is pretty strong but what I’m trying to get at is: I love me some fire Pokemon. Out of the original 151 the ‘mon I would like to see evolved the most is probably Arcanine.
When I watched the anime (I may or may not have carefully collected as many VHS tapes as I could get my hands on) Growlithe was the first Pokemon I was really excited to see “brought to life” so to speak. It would be awesome to see his third evolution. :3
alsjdlskfasldkjaslfj YOU ARE TOO SWEET. Thank you, anon. T____T This was such a lovely message to wake up to. <3
Man I’ve had those moments before.
To avoid that kind of thing after a relationship I tend to purge my house of anything that reminds me of my ex. It doesn’t matter if I was given a thing by them or if it was just a book or something that they liked. If looking at it makes me think of my ex then it goes into a big box.
I’ve kept using a few gifts that don’t really remind me of an ex at all but in general my whole house gets a sweep of Eliminate the Ex. Then the box gets put in a storage area and forgotten about. I don’t throw it all away immediately in case they want it back - most of my breakups have been amicable and I didn’t want to be a jerk about their stuff.
Some items like clothing I bought for special dates or gifts that are really useful I just kind of put in the back of my closet and start using again once I’m totally over the person.
I really like moving on as fast as humanly possible. Sitting around moping isn’t productive. So anything I can do to move on (that’s healthy) gets done as soon as I can.
It went REALLY well until I ran out of Wen. I loved how freaking soft and healthy my hair felt.
I don’t really have the money right now to use Wen but I REALLY want to pick it back up eventually. On Amazon it’s $30-$40 a 16oz bottle, which went a lot faster than I thought it would. It would definitely be on Wen full time if my hair was shorter but as it stood in order to distribute it throughout all of me hair I was using at least ten pumps. :(
The conditioner I used that wasn’t Wen weighed down my hair too much. I might start experimenting with different conditioners to see if I can find one that doesn’t accumulate on my hair like layers of lead.
Awwww! Thank you! Happy Christmas to you tooooo! I hope you had a lovely day. <3